Want to bring up a confident child who will be successful in life? Frances Yeo, Principal Psychologist at The Child Development Centre (an affiliated clinic of SBCC Baby & Child Clinic), says start by developing his Emotional Intelligence from birth. – Click here to view advertorial
What is Emotional Intelligence (EI)? Is it the same thing as EQ (Emotional Quotient)?
Emotional intelligence is about a person’s ability to understand and manage his own feelings and those of others, motivate himself and manage relationship with others. Emotional Intelligence (EI) is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ). The higher the score, the more emotionally intelligent you are.
Why is it important to develop my child’s Emotional Intelligence?
Being successful is more than just having a high Intelligence Quotient (IQ) and great academic grades. In fact, social psychology research have shown that having high EQ, rather than IQ, plays a bigger role in determining how successful a person can be. People with high EQ tend to achieve more in their career, have better relationships, enjoy higher self-esteem and confidence, and in turn, feel happier.
Parents should start developing their child’s Emotional Intelligence from the day he is born. You play a vital role in helping them understand and express their feelings; how you react and what you say to your child can also influence their EQ. Don’t ignore or play down his feelings. Instead, encourage him to articulate them, be it feelings of frustration, anger, joy, sadness or jealousy.
A big part of honing your child’s EI includes teaching him how to handle negative feelings. Just like learning to write a composition or play a musical instrument, developing EI takes practice over time.
My son has a terrible temper and whenever he flies into a rage, he seems totally out of control. I suspect he needs help with anger management. How can I correct his behaviour?
Most children need to be taught how to express their feelings in an appropriate way. This may be done via incidental learning in everyday life when opportunity arises, or by attending professionally run classes.
The Child Development Centre at Novena Medical Centre runs a Managing Anger Group for children in Primary One to Primary Three. Using fun and effective methods to teach children to recognize their emotions, it also helps them identify their anger triggers and learn how to express feelings appropriately and manage conflicts.
This series consists of five sessions for children and two for parents.
The children’s sessions cover topics like
- What is anger?
- Feeling angry – is it ok?
- How do I release my anger?
- Aggression VS assertiveness
- Anger is not a part of me
The parents’ sessions cover parenting styles and skills in managing difficult situations at home.
This group also benefits children without significant anger problems as it prepares them to cope with such crisis in future.
About The Child Development Centre
The Child Development Centre at Novena Medical Centre focuses on providing assessment and therapeutic interventions for children with developmental and learning difficulties. The centre adopts a multidisciplinary approach by a team of specialists to access the child and develops the most appropriate treatment plan to help the child overcome his/ her difficulties. The team, consisting paediatricians, child psychologists, physiotherapists, occupational therapists, speech & language therapists and dieticians, is able to deliver comprehensive medical and therapy services at one location.